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In today's world one of the hardest parts of parenting is trying to figure out how to discipline your childchildren. There are so many conflicting beliefs. It seems everyone's discipline style is different cheap nike tns australia , so how are you supposed to choose which 'style? is right for your family and what is really best for your child?


This article will be mostly about our discipline style (with some general ideas thrown in), which is called Positive Discipline. What exactly IS positive discipline you ask? Well, let's start with what successful discipline IS! Successful discipline requires many things. However the most important of these is, respect of both parent and child. The initial objective is to end the behavior in question, but the goal for the long run should be nike tns australia , not only to stop this behavior but also give your child guidance that reaffirms his value and self-worth. Thus, enabling him to develop a way of thinking that will ultimately make him want to avoid the behavior in the future. The goal of Positive Discipline is not to ?punish? but more to guide.


Often I hear parents say that they spank or yell at their kids. This is not because these parents do not care for their children but because they really don't know any different. If you look at the world today, what do you see as socially more ?acceptable?; yelling at a child doing something ?bad?, or creating a ?yes? environment for that same child? The first of course, it's the way it's ?always? been done Cheap Nike Air Max Plus 270 All Black Men's Australia , right?


Parents today are just beginning to really search out the ?whys? of the way parenting works. Deciding, ?just because it's the way everyone else is parenting? doesn't cut it anymore.


One of the primary things to remember when thinking in terms of discipline is that changing a child's behavior is much like trying to change them into adults. Usually the behaviors tend to typically get worse before they get better. One of the main reasons for this is because they need to test the limits that you set up to not only see how far these limits go but also to see how consistent you will be with enforcing them as well.


So before you have a child that needs discipline it's a good time to get your 'ducks in a row? so to speak. Think about what you want to do BEFORE the incidents occur. This is one of the hardest things, to do but we all know that there are going to be issues that do arise, how will you handle them? (Easier said than done with a toddler who pushes buttons and tests, I know- toddler wrestling should be an Olympic Sport)


The second thing to remember is that consistency really does work. So Cheap Nike Air Max Plus Black Metallic Gold Men's Trainers Australia , when you and your family decide what the best method is for you, no matter what that method is. Whether you decide time outs, redirects, or another method, then you need to implement them in all or at least most circumstances.


This can get sticky when you're with people (especially the grandparents) who may not subscribe to your methods of discipline or 'behavioral response'. Doesn't matter- you need to be consistent for a variety of reasons. Consistency in everything you do you will find will be the best for your child Cheap Nike Air Max TN Black Grey Women's Australia , much like a dependable schedule your child will come to expect and even count on the limits you set.


The third thing to remember is that approximately 90% of the time the issue is communication. Your child maybe bored, angry, upset, tired, hungry etc. and for whatever reason can't communicate that. The other 10% well that's pure scientific experimentation.


Examples would be:


Ok Cheap Nike Air Max TN Pink White Women's Australia , if I throw my bread onto the floor, what sound will it make, what reaction will my mommy give?


OR


If I throw my juice on the table, what will happen?


Your child has to act out certain behaviors to see how you react, because they don't know yet!


Positive discipline is basically using positive tools to correct a child's behavior. Negative andor aggressive actions such a spanking Cheap Nike Air Max TN Crisom Men's Australia , yelling, threatening, name-calling, and intimidation are not productive discipline measures. Some may argue that without spanking they are left with no other tools to deter a child's behavior. However with positive discipline it is more about giving ?yes? answers as apposed to ?no's?. Positive discipline in the long-term will contribute to a healthier relationship with your child.


Example:


Child: ?Mommy can I have a cookie??


Mother: ?Hunny, it is almost dinner time. So how about you help mommy. There are two things you could do Cheap Nike Air Max TN Black Red Men's Australia , you could help me stir the corn in this bowl, or you could help me finish setting the table by putting out the napkins.? Now if it's not dinner time, then instead of redirecting to a 'task? you could just as easily say. ?Cookies are not something I would like you to have right now. How would you like an apple or some yogurt instead? We will have cookies later.? In this situation, first you're letting your child know that you heard the question. Secondly, you're validating that he is hungry and will be able to eat soon Cheap Nike Air Max TN Navy Light Blue Men's Australia , since dinner is coming or letting him know that he can have something to eat. Third you're redirecting and helping him to help you. Then last you're giving your child the CHOICE as to which thing he would rather do. Children as adults like to be given choices!


When a parent is frustrated or fearful the seemingly quickest way to end a behavior is through hitting or yelling, when actually these actions can take the focus off of the child's behavior, confusing the child and stopping him from learning what's really wrong with the actions he is taking. Aggressive, negative discipline tends to create a sense of distrust with the parent-child relationship. It can, and usually does Cheap Nike Air Max TN Triple Black Men's Australia , cause parents to feel out of control and ashamed. It also tends to alienate us from our children. A baby, toddler, or older child who sees that his parent is angry with him does not understand that this anger is out of worry or concern for his safety or w

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